Jen Payne | Holding on to the good days #LunchtimeLives
Holding on to the good days when your parent drinks too much
Holding on to the good days when your parent drinks too much
Trying to help them stop
My Dad
As a family I believe we were in denial
As a family I believe we were in denial
I miss you every moment of my life
As much as I miss you, I don’t miss the alcohol and perpetual cycle of despair.
As much as I miss you, I don’t miss the alcohol and perpetual cycle of despair.
My Mum From Memory
I tried to save her but I just couldn’t get past the dark.
I tried to save her but I just couldn’t get past the dark.
You have to love yourself first
All I can do is support from an arm’s length. I’m a daughter, not a carer.
All I can do is support from an arm’s length. I’m a daughter, not a carer.
When you become the parent
When somebody is given family support to heal, you must tell ourself that you were not the cause.
When somebody is given family support to heal, you must tell ourself that you were not the cause.
My Mum
As I have got older I realise there is no shame to admit things are getting too much and asking for help.
As I have got older I realise there is no shame to admit things are getting too much and asking for help.
I lost my superpower: Strength
The questions I had will never be answered. The answers I wanted will never be given.
The questions I had will never be answered. The answers I wanted will never be given.
I had to be both mum and dad in the house
I felt helpless. Everyone kept telling me ‘she needs to help herself’ but she wouldn’t get the help.
I felt helpless. Everyone kept telling me ‘she needs to help herself’ but she wouldn’t get the help.
The Price We Paid
Although we got through those difficult times, the price we paid will never be refunded.
Although we got through those difficult times, the price we paid will never be refunded.
