Reflection of my youth

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tm19x

You may have influenced me to believe I’m inherently wrong. There’s a whole lot of shame being carried that never belonged to me.
You took your load and passed it on, I felt it in my bones, a sort of self rejection happening from within.
It was never my load. Saving you should have never been my goal, too young to know that responsibility was your own.

  • listener

    Hi,

    Thank you for sharing these reflections. They’re important and I’m sure that they will touch others that come across your post.

    You are right, this was never your load. Your words remind me of the ‘Six C’s’:

    I didn’t cause it.
    I can’t control it.
    I can’t cure it it.
    I can take care of myself.
    I can communicate my feelings.
    I can make healthy choices.

    There is always an ‘inner child’ within us. I wonder how yours feels for hearing the affirmations that you wrote. It’s amazing that you can show up for that younger you and tell yourself that this was never your fault.

    Of course this is always a journey, so do continue to post or reach out to Nacoa if you would like to talk.

    Kindest Wishes,
    Listener

  • pearl

    Wow very powerful words that I can really relate to!
    Thank you for sharing and so sorry you went through this.
    The Nacoa helpline is really valuable for a chat and to have someone listening.
    You are not alone

    • tm19x

      It's nice to share it here were people can understand. Sometimes it does feel very isolating not having anyone who understands what this is like. I'm sorry you can also relate. Writing is very helpful for me to express myself.

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