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- To my younger self
  I see you. You’re 14, and you’re doing your best to be a good girl. You don’t realise it but you think that will make everything ok, if you just block the rest out and...
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  Posted by: elvis0707
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- Dechipering it all…
  In 2020, my 10-year marriage ended explosively. My husband had a drinking problem which I struggled to ‘manage’. And amidst the breakdown of my marriage, I was forced to confront my past and how...
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  Posted by: foxpott25
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- Alcoholic Dad dead after drinking and driving
  Three months ago, my alcoholic father died in a car accident where he flipped his jeep multiple times and was thrown from the vehicle. Yesterday we got the toxicology report back and he was...
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  Posted by: acd
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- Strange Times
  My mam passed away 8 years ago with alcohol dependency. There was myself and my sister. I've always had a complex toxic relationship with her and around 7 years ago we had a argument...
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  Posted by: sparklecoordinator
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- Father – a poem to you.
  Father, I feel betrayed deep in my bones. For your love is all I've ever longed for. It was a push and pull. A Turbulence. The past decade has felt so rough, I know mums death took it out on...
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  Posted by: tm19x
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- I’m exhausted but scared to cut contact
  I was adopted when I was very young and my adoptive dad is an alcoholic. My family sees the problem, including my mum who has told me numerous times how afraid she is of...
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  Posted by: anonymous123
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