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- Am I wrong for stopping my mum from seeing my children
  Around 4 years ago I moved out of our family home and moved in with my partner as we were expecting our first baby. My (alcoholic) mum didn’t take this very well, she would...
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  Posted by: acoalistener
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- Alcoholic dad refuses to get help
  My dad has been an alcoholic for at least 12 years, I think he started drinking more than normal in 2010 (when I was 15) and it gradually got worse. By 2013 (when I...
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  Posted by: nevermind
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- Finding people to talk to
  Is there a in-person, or virtual, group that meet up every so often? I have seen a few, but was a bit cautious because some of the groups I found seem quite religious -...
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  Posted by: ephe1
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- Undiagnosed & in denial alcoholic mum
  I read a book recently which mentioned Nacoa and its taken me a little while to get here. I am just so thankful this place exists. As with most stories, mine is like many others....
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  Posted by: survivor89
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- All I feel is anger
  My mum was a functioning alcoholic for the first 15 years of my life. She split from my dad when I was a baby and it was always just me and her. I remember...
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  Posted by: stripeyblanket
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- Mom in denial about addiction
  My mom is in complete denial of her addiction and I don't know what to do anymore. Whenever I confront her about her drinking she treats me like I'm the one accusing her of...
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  Posted by: phoenixschild
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Hi, thank you so much for posting and for sharing some of your story. I am so sorry to hear about how unwell your dad…
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