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tm19x

Anyone else feel like they want to drink when they start to feel sad or if something bad happens.
I do because I can’t cope with sitting in silence by myself and hating myself. Then when I feel okay I say I’ll never be like my parents..
This week has been hard, knowing my dad never bothers with me and spends his time at the pub and being rejected by a guy I was getting to know. I go over everything a million times in my head and give up on doing anything with the day before work.
Honestly have no clue how to deal with things in good ways đŸ˜”â€đŸ’«

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    Hi tm19x,

    I'm so sorry you're struggling so much. It sounds like the past week has brought up some really difficult feelings that you're struggling to cope with. It's understandable that you want to drink to cope with this if you feel you have no other ways of dealing with things.

    Have you tried journaling? Keeping a diary can feel very therapeutic as it allows you to externalise those difficult emotions and thoughts, rather than having them stuck in your head.

    It's equally important to have things that give you a break from difficult emotions. Do you have any interests? Any things that you enjoy doing or that you're passionate about? Finding something that you really enjoy can give you an escape from difficult feelings in a healthy way, rather than using something like alcohol to escape. If you don't have anything like this it might be worth exploring it a little bit.

    Do you have any support around you? Dealing with things alone can feel incredibly isolating. I hope you have someone who you can reach out to if you need to talk. Remember that Nacoa is there for you as well if you'd like someone outside of the situation to talk to. You can email helpline@nacoa.org.uk or call 0800 358 3456.

    Take good care,
    Listener

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