I don’t know what to do
There is so much to my story that I could write a book, so I am going to try and make this as short as I can. There are things that led up to my father’s alcoholism but I am going to start where it really started messing up his life. In 2014 my father admitted to having a problem and checked himself into a detox program. He was there for 2 weeks but he never got any help after detox other than talking to his doctor and getting a prescription for Valium. Just replacing the alcohol with a pill. After about 2 weeks he started drinking and taking the pills. This led to him crashing his ex-wife’s car and being arrested for DWI. I picked him up from jail that night and he has lived with me ever since. Within a month of him moving in with me, he got divorced, lost his house, lost his job and started the spiral he is still in. It took a year in court but he also lost his license, he had a CDL and had to cash in his retirement to pay the fines, fees and his lawyer. I have tried being nice and letting him that he has a problem but because he only drinks beer now and hard liquor it’s ok. I also get “I’m a grown man and it’s my life, I’ll do what I want” It’s not only me talking to him about his drinking, my son does as well, who just turned 21 and does not want to drink because of watching his grandfather over the past 7 years. No one else in my house drinks, so he is drinking alone and acts really stupid when he drinks. He slurs when he talks, he stumbles around and he tries to act sober and attempts a conversation but, he makes no sense in what he says and can’t remember what was said to him. He acts as if no one can tell he has been drinking and will deny drinking. He sneaks out to go to the store and get a 12 pack. I know he has a problem and I have been trying for the past 7 years to help him, help himself. I am mentally and emotionally drained. I have depression and anxiety. I have emotional breakdowns and panic attacks daily because of this. My father sees this and says I am causing it myself because he don’t have a problem. I just recently applied to a job for the national office for the company I work for and it’s a good chance I will get the position. This means I will need to relocate. There is nothing holding my father here and he has agreed to move with me but he wants to stay here. I am to the point that I want to tell him fine, you stay here and figure it out yourself(he depends in me for everything) At the same time, I know he can not make it without me and I don’t want him to end up on the street begging for money to get that bottle. I can’t take him drinking anymore but I also can’t just leve him to fend for himself. I don’t know what to do.