Should I have a relationship with my dad even if it makes me desperately unhappy?
I am 17 and my dad is an alcoholic. Partly because of my dad’s addiction my mum has separated from my dad. He refuses to believe he has a serious problem, he knows he drink too much but doesn’t realise the extent of the problem and the effect it has on me and my sister. We have told him it would make us so much happier if he gave up and told him how depressed and scared it makes us. He does not care about that and doesn’t even want to do it for himself. As a result, I have told him I will not contact him until he gets help to give up alcohol (as part of my parents divorce he lives apart from us on his own). He has accepted that we will not contact him and put his drinking above his daughters. I did this because I thought it would shock him into realising the severity of the issue. It has not worked.
It has been over a month now since I last saw him, he has tried to call and text me but I have told him I won’t talk to him until he accepts and gets help for his addiction. Again, he has accepted this, hasn’t changed his drinking habits and is prepared to give up his daughters if it means he can still drink.
I was looking for some advice if I should give in and have a relationship with my Dad because I love him and I want him to be in my life? It makes me sad not having him here. But I feel that I need to stay firm, not contact him and hope he sees sense because I cannot continue living around his addiction? All I want is for him to get better.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Thank you! Xx