Sober Dave – When alcohol becomes too important as a parent

I was in the selfish bubble of: “I need to drink. I need to drink.”

Sober Dave – When alcohol becomes too important as a parent

It was a huge honour to welcome Sober Dave to the Lunchtime Lives family! As expected this was an amazing interview with star Nacoa ambassador, Josh Connolly.

Dave speaks about his experiences being a parent who drank too much. But also reveals that he shares core experiences as a child of neglect, shame and sadness.

This went on to inform the way he used alcohol in later life and subsequently became addicted to it.

Sober Dave image

The selfish bubble

‘When I was drinking, I never really thought about the kids. And that’s being honest. I thought about me.

‘I thought about them the next day, when I was hung over. But it was more at the time I was in the selfish bubble of: “I need to drink. I need to drink.”

‘Often when I work with people as a coach. When I start to invite them in to have that internal discussion about their kids… It does trigger a little bit of emotion there.

‘And it’s like, “So why don’t you try and explore how it might feel for them when it’s bedtime and they want tucking in and a bedtime story read to them. With their little snuggle put next to them. And actually, you might think you’re preset, but you’re not.’

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Sober Dave – When alcohol becomes too important as a parent

I was in the selfish bubble of: "I need to drink. I need to drink."

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Sober Dave – When alcohol becomes too important as a parent

It was a huge honour to welcome Sober Dave to the Lunchtime Lives family! As expected this was an amazing interview with star Nacoa ambassador, Josh Connolly.

Dave speaks about his experiences being a parent who drank too much. But also reveals that he shares core experiences as a child of neglect, shame and sadness.

This went on to inform the way he used alcohol in later life and subsequently became addicted to it.

Sober Dave image

The selfish bubble

‘When I was drinking, I never really thought about the kids. And that’s being honest. I thought about me.

‘I thought about them the next day, when I was hung over. But it was more at the time I was in the selfish bubble of: “I need to drink. I need to drink.”

‘Often when I work with people as a coach. When I start to invite them in to have that internal discussion about their kids… It does trigger a little bit of emotion there.

‘And it’s like, “So why don’t you try and explore how it might feel for them when it’s bedtime and they want tucking in and a bedtime story read to them. With their little snuggle put next to them. And actually, you might think you’re preset, but you’re not.’

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