Why did no one notice?

Liz’s poem reflects on the times her childhood experiences went unnoticed.

Why did no one notice?

No one asked why.

No one asked why I didn’t eat.

Why I was so thin.

Why I was so average and tired at school.

Why I left school and home so young.

There were opportunities to ask, like the time I saw my doctor. But he didn’t ask.

I always kept my silence. Pretend.

But no one asked why.

No one saw my holed shoes.

My patched jeans.

My lack of supervision. My sadness.

I sat by the canal for hours, thinking.

Planning to leave as soon as I could, to survive.

I was a good girl.

Despite my lack of food and sleep.

I got away, a long way, a shy girl.

I am a girl who found her voice and a good life.

I have spent my life helping others.

It didn’t take long after I left for many tragedies, then death, at the home I left.

I had to cope with them and the memories.

It is and was so sad.

Now I am old, my childhood is hidden inside.

I am left thinking why.

Why did no one ask what was wrong?

Why did no one notice?

Liz

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Why did no one notice?

No one asked why.

No one asked why I didn’t eat.

Why I was so thin.

Why I was so average and tired at school.

Why I left school and home so young.

There were opportunities to ask, like the time I saw my doctor. But he didn’t ask.

I always kept my silence. Pretend.

But no one asked why.

No one saw my holed shoes.

My patched jeans.

My lack of supervision. My sadness.

I sat by the canal for hours, thinking.

Planning to leave as soon as I could, to survive.

I was a good girl.

Despite my lack of food and sleep.

I got away, a long way, a shy girl.

I am a girl who found her voice and a good life.

I have spent my life helping others.

It didn’t take long after I left for many tragedies, then death, at the home I left.

I had to cope with them and the memories.

It is and was so sad.

Now I am old, my childhood is hidden inside.

I am left thinking why.

Why did no one ask what was wrong?

Why did no one notice?

Liz

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I didn’t cause it
I can’t control it
I can’t cure it
I can take care of myself
I can communicate my feelings
I can make healthy choices

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