Why I started Stitch Away the Stigma
I’m Natalie, the founder of Stitch Away the Stigma CIC. I started this initiative during a challenging period in my life when my dad’s alcohol consumption spiralled out of control, reaching 1.5 litres of vodka a day.
It was May 2021, during lockdown, and I was furloughed from work. Without the distractions of ‘normal life,’ his substance use disorder became all-consuming.
My mental health had suffered in previous years, but it was at this point I felt myself spiralling alongside him. Insomnia and anxiety became regular parts of my existence, and I realised I needed to prioritise my mental health.
As a Textile Artist, I knew the therapeutic benefits of embroidery. It was even used in rehab with soldiers during WWI for its relaxing, stress-relieving properties that calm the nervous system. I started stitching about my dad and his drinking—expressing the thoughts and feelings that were overwhelming me.
Many of these thoughts were unpleasant, and I felt immense guilt. However, transferring these thoughts from my mind to fabric brought immense relief, calmed my mind, and improved my sleep.
I felt immense guilt
I realised that if embroidery could help me, it could help others too. Recent research shows that 45% of adults aged 18-75 have experienced addiction of some kind, either directly or through someone close to them.
This statistic is staggering, and much of the problem is due to the stigma attached. This stigma prevents individuals with substance use disorders, as well as their loved ones, from seeking help. Initially, I was hesitant to speak openly about this, especially since my dad is still here.
However, if my dad had any other illness, I wouldn’t feel this stigma. Addiction profoundly affects the lives of loved ones, making it crucial to talk about it openly. If we don’t, where does that pain go, and where is the help for us and our loved ones? If we can’t discuss it openly, how can we expect those affected to seek help?
Now, over 450 people have stitched their own squares, expressing their thoughts and feelings about their loved one’s substance use. For many, it was the first time they had ever spoken about their pain. Some had been suffering in silence for decades. This needs to change.
The hanging
I have transformed these stitched squares into a beautiful wall hanging, over 50 feet wide. Alongside the squares, individuals bravely shared their personal stories, which I have curated into a book.
These stories capture the raw emotions of those who participated, pain, anger, grief, hope and most importantly, love. They provide a profound insight into the lived experiences of those affected.
To purchase a copy of the book or join the wall hanging please email me: stitchawaythestigma@hotmail.co.uk
Natalie Needham
For help and support if you are affected by a parent’s drinking or similar addictive problem, Nacoa is here for you.
